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<div> <blockquote class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned data-instgrm-version="6" style=" background:#FFF; border:0; border-radius:3px; box-shadow:0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width:658px; padding:0; width:99.375%; width:-webkit-calc(100% - 2px); width:calc(100% - 2px);"><div style="padding:8px;"> <div style=" background:#F8F8F8; line-height:0; margin-top:40px; padding:50.0% 0; text-align:center; width:100%;"> <div style=" background:url(data:image/png;base64,iVBORw0KGgoAAAANSUhEUgAAACwAAAAsCAMAAAApWqozAAAAGFBMVEUiIiI9PT0eHh4gIB4hIBkcHBwcHBwcHBydr+JQAAAACHRSTlMABA4YHyQsM5jtaMwAAADfSURBVDjL7ZVBEgMhCAQBAf//42xcNbpAqakcM0ftUmFAAIBE81IqBJdS3lS6zs3bIpB9WED3YYXFPmHRfT8sgyrCP1x8uEUxLMzNWElFOYCV6mHWWwMzdPEKHlhLw7NWJqkHc4uIZphavDzA2JPzUDsBZziNae2S6owH8xPmX8G7zzgKEOPUoYHvGz1TBCxMkd3kwNVbU0gKHkx+iZILf77IofhrY1nYFnB/lQPb79drWOyJVa/DAvg9B/rLB4cC+Nqgdz/TvBbBnr6GBReqn/nRmDgaQEej7WhonozjF+Y2I/fZou/qAAAAAElFTkSuQmCC); display:block; height:44px; margin:0 auto -44px; position:relative; top:-22px; width:44px;"></div></div> <p style=" margin:8px 0 0 0; padding:0 4px;"> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/_2AwgCQzty/" style=" color:#000; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; font-style:normal; font-weight:normal; line-height:17px; text-decoration:none; word-wrap:break-word;" target="_blank">Same girl in all of these photos (me). I&#39;ve had an amazing year and you&#39;ve seen the highlights here, so these photos are an uncommon thing to share but not an uncommon issue. You may be weirded out but do read on. I have a point. There are many reasons not to make an abusive relationship public, mostly fear. Scared of what people will think, scared it makes me look weak or unprofessional. When I broke up with my ex this summer, it wasn&#39;t because I didn&#39;t love him, it was because of this. And I absolutely relapsed and contacted him with things I shouldn’t have, but there are no “best practices” with this. When friends or comics ask why we broke up it&#39;s not easy or comfortable to reply; it doesn&#39;t seem like the appropriate thing to say at a stand-up show, a party or a wedding. It&#39;s embarrassing. I feel stupid. After being verbally, physically abused and raped, I dated him for two more months. It&#39;s not simple. After I broke up with him he said, &#34;You&#39;re very open and honest in your stand-up, and I just ask that you consider me when you talk about your ex because everyone knows who you&#39;re talking about.&#34; And I abided. I wrote vague jokes because we both live in L.A. and I didn&#39;t want to hurt him, start a war, press charges, be interrogated or harassed by him or his friends and family. I wanted to move on and forget because I didn’t understand. I don&#39;t want revenge or to hurt him now, but it&#39;s unhealthy to keep this inside because my stand-up is pulled directly from my life. It&#39;s how I make my living. My personal is my professional. That is how I&#39;ve always been; I make dark, funny. So now I&#39;m allowing this to be part of my story. It&#39;s not my only story, so please don&#39;t let it be. If you live in L.A., you&#39;ve already started to hear my jokes about this and I ask you to have the courage to listen and accept it because I’m trying. Already since talking about this onstage, many women have come to me after shows asking me to keep doing it. Men have shown their solidarity. An ex-girlfriend of this ex-boyfriend came to me and shared that she experienced the same fate. Then there was another and another (men and women) who shared other injustices at his hand that..</a></p> <p style=" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; line-height:17px; margin-bottom:0; margin-top:8px; overflow:hidden; padding:8px 0 7px; text-align:center; text-overflow:ellipsis; white-space:nowrap;">A photo posted by Beth Stelling (@bethstelling) on <time style=" font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; line-height:17px;" datetime="2015-12-28T17:30:28+00:00">Dec 28, 2015 at 9:30am PST</time></p></div></blockquote> <script async defer src="//platform.instagram.com/en_US/embeds.js"></script> </div>
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Beth Stelling odlučila je progovoriti o zlostavljanju koje je doživjela od svog bivšeg dečka. Na društvenim mrežama objavila je 'fotke' modrica na rukama i nogama

Beth Stelling odlučila je progovoriti o zlostavljanju koje je doživjela od strane svog bivšeg dečka i to na način da je na društvenim mrežama objavila fotografije svojih ruku i nogu prekrivenih modricama.

- Nakon verbalnih i fizičkih napada te silovanja, ostala sam s njim još dva mjeseca. Nije bilo lako - napisala je.

Beth je objavila fotografije s namjerom podizanja svijesti o nasilju u obitelji te kako bi ohrabrila druge žrtve da prekinu šutnju.

- Ove fotografije možda jesu nesvakidašnje, ali problematika definitivno nije - napisala je i dodala je da se nada kako će upravo one pomoći ženama da izbjegnu slične situacije.

Isto tako, dodala je da 'fotke' nije objavila s namjerom da mu se osveti, već je to njen način suočavanja s onim što joj se dogodilo.

Beth je sada u novoj vezi, a njena objava dobila je preko 13.000 'lajkova' i mnoštvo pozitivnih komentara.

Komentari (64)
  • taj se popravit neće, al će vjerovatno nać drugu žrtvu

    30. 12. 2015,   10:41
  • ne razumijem zasto to trpe,nakon prvog takvog slucaja trebala ga prijavit i maknut se od njega

    30. 12. 2015,   10:47
  • postoje razlicite vrste nasilja. verbalno,emotivno,fizicko,...ove povrede se vide,ali postoje i one koje nisu okom vidljive. uzasavam se nasilnika bilo koje vrste . ne treba cutati,biti pasivan posto su takvi po svojoj prirodi u stvari kukavice.

    30. 12. 2015,   11:37